Her Boyfriend said: “You’re Not As Small As When We First Met”

Her Boyfriend said: “You’re Not As Small As When We First Met”

 

How would you respond to a statement like that?

One of my best and brightest clients shared this with me once. She and her, now EX, boyfriend were just having a normal discussion about “things” in their relationship and somehow it leads to the statement by him:

“You’re Not as Small as When We First Met”

She’s a very sensitive person. Not the type who would claw his eyes out for a crack like that.

She’s more the type to internalize the comment, not get angry (which she had a perfect right to do), not lash out or yell and scream.

She did what a lot of us who are afraid to “rock the boat” do. She just tried to make a quick excuse and deflect the mean spirited comment.

But it brings up a point and trait a lot of folks with sugar sensitivities, dependencies and addictions share.

We all tend to blame ourselves when something goes wrong. We tend to internalize the issue and see how we were at fault.

My client shared that she immediately felt that her diet had slipped a little. She was eating a little more junk.

Maybe she was nervous that she was having feelings for the guy so that stress brought on some bad eating patterns.

Maybe she knew he was just a jerk anyway but he had a certain social standing and some money and her girlfriends thought he was cute.

The point is she was internalizing all the possibilities. Did she gain some weight? How much did she weigh when they first met?

Instead of just realizing the guy was a jerk she was blaming herself. Luckily she had a few fellow travelers to consult and guide her.

Isolation with our bad thoughts is one of the reasons we use sugar. I think all camps of change and recovery would agree that the isolation we feel as we ramp up our sugar use is not good for anyone. Let alone for change.

Sometimes it’s hard. It’s a double-edged sword.

Our families and friends are not at the same level of understanding or readiness to change but we don’t know anyone who is open and honest about their REAL sugar consumption.

Not the little lies we tell ourselves or the front we present in public of never eating any sweets.

Sometimes it would just be nice, to be honest about our sugar, to compare notes with someone who is wrestling with the same issue. If that’s how you feel today just go here: Quit Sugar Now.

If you think your weight or your health is holding you back from living “a big life” (more on that soon) join us lovers of big lives…    Quit Sugar Now.

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